If I Could Go Back In Time This Is What I Would Tell Myself…

Dear 12 year old Catherine,

Until 2018 (because that’s as far as I can see forward right now) do the following:

  • Ignore every guy who ever asks you out, don’t let them touch you, they’re no good.
  • You look younger than you are so the older guys who are interested in you are up to no good, (this is for when you become an adult) they don’t know you’re over 18, they’re pretty much paedophiles lol.
  • Never date anyone who asks you.
  • Believe in Jesus, He’s real!
  • Tidy your room…
  • Don’t worry about not doing well at school it works out in the end.
  • Don’t worry about going to parties and about what you’ll wear or who you’ll hang out with just chill, people like you.
  • Invest in Amazon and Apple, borrow money from Daddy because you don’t have any money at the moment because you are a child lol.
  • Listen to your Father.
  • Don’t drink too much it’s not attractive. (this is for later…)
  • Stay away from scrawny men who have ANGER PROBLEMS that cover up their insecurities and various other ineptitudes, they are angry at you because they can’t go any further with their lives and you can and they just want you to be in the same place/level as they are, your success frustrates them.
  • Try hard at University
  • Try to get on with everybody but still have a spine
  • Be careful who you let into your life
  • Prince Harry is going to marry a woman who is half Caucasian-American half African-American but you already suspected that he was going to marry a woman of colour anyway… =P
  • Keep writing songs! And be honest in your songwriting, don’t write songs like everyone else, write songs like you!
  • Love yourself and if one of those scrawny loosers doesn’t want you someone else will, they hope you don’t realise your own self worth and continue to pine over them, that is how they draw their power!
  • You will write this post whilst listening to cheesy 90’s pop which you used to like and are old enough to remember when it first came out lol, don’t waste too much time watching Spice Girls again… it’s not worth it, you will struggle to get fully through a single song lol. This post reminds me of this song (not from the Spice Girls):

Lots of love

Catherine x

#kisstory #royalwedding hehe!

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YOU REALLY NEED TO READ THIS…

God wants you to read these again.

If you’re on my site now it means God wants you to read the following:

  1. Have a positive body image, you’re not ugly, you’re wonderful! – (follow this link to find out more)
  2. No, you cannot fall in love with people you only know online – (follow this link to find out why)
  3. This is what the Bible actually says about sex before marriage. You have a choice. – (follow this link to understand your choices)

Yes, masturbation is sex…

Getting the stuff above wrong is stripping you of your peace. This song is for you:

No picture today just focus and read.

Catherine

I’ve decided to try new things

Hello

I’m thinking about pushing the boundaries and to stop being so “safe” and to try new things. That is all. I’m busy trying new things lol.

Here’s the playlist with my new song about marital sex in the garden from last week. There’s 3 versions in the playlist, the original, acoustic and orchestral, let me know which one you like best.

Play in the embedded player below or Follow this link to play:

You can also listen on SoundCloud. Follow this link to play or use the embedded player below:

Catherine x

I Wrote A Song About #Sex for my #PhD | #phdlife #freelance #musician #soundcloud #music #feminism |

Hello Everyone!

So as we know I’m doing a PhD in Music, in the area of Theomusicology & Feminist Musicology and some other things, with a practical element to it. So one of the things I’m looking at is how women and sex is represented in music as my project is interested in sexual politics (in a metaphorical sense) but in a literal sense sexual politics is also about sex. In response to my findings I’m going to produce some songs on the topic. The practical portfolio will have songs on various topics relating to women and music and theology. It will make sense when you read my thesis. Here’s a paraphrased summary of what I’ve learned, the full academic essay will come later.

I chose the topic of marital sex as a context for my section on women, music and sex. My intended outcomes for this song are to present women/wives as strong, mutual/equal with men/husbands, sensual/emotional beings that enjoy sex and have their own opinions and sex drives and sexual desires that are just as important as the man’s within the context of marital sex. Furthermore, as I am a woman of colour, I am writing from the perspective of a woman of colour and I hope that my piece along with the values therein, will address the negative stereotypes about women of colour that perpetuate within Western contemporary songs about sex. In Western popular songs about sex, women of colour are usually represented in the most abased and course way. Furthermore, songwriters have an irritating habit if sexualizing the ways in which women of colour are often discriminated against, race, gender and class, by presenting them as the hot abused poor baby mamas *rolls eyes*, or one night stands, never anything good etc. Instead I, have written and performed a song, from the perspective of a woman of colour about being in a sexual relationship within the socio-economic status and security of being a wife, the lyrics talk about saying “I do” and rings etc. (you don’t have to be some guys baby mama, why are we always shown as the baby mama and not the wife?) and not a victim in sexual activity but a willing, consensual, active and committed participant. (N.B. I am not and have never been married this is just in the fictional narrative of the song).

As mentioned earlier, this song is about the joys of marital sex, as experienced by two fictional newly-weds. It follows the metaphor, imagery and form of ‘Song of Songs’ which is also called Song of Solomon, my favourite book of the Bible, (talking about gardens, fragrant spices, greenery, little foxes, having sex outside, it’s all in Song of Songs lol). Song of Songs is actually about the love between a dark skinned woman and King Solomon.

Song of Solomon 1:5 [NLT]
I am dark but beautiful, O women of Jerusalem- dark as the tents of Kedar, dark as the curtains of Solomon’s tents.

It also represents a counter-cultural approach to romantic relationships between men and women, as it is in fact the woman who pursues the man. I tried to reflect this in arranging it for a female singer and making the tone of the lyrics, that of someone who is a pursuer and initiator of physical intimacy. I also show the woman as initiator as well as mutual consenting participant, instead of a passive participant or victim. The lead vocal (the woman/bride) vocalises decisions about her own sexual desires and needs. You can find the woman in Song of Songs doing the same thing. The theomusicology comes in the narrative of the lyrics which implies that now they’re married they can have sex when and wherever they want to lol (within reason), which is a Christian theological standpoint (I’m a Christian btw). So it implies restraint and commitment before coitus, not after.

I also decided to make it walking pace because I found that most songs about sex and women, especially sex with or about or by women of colour, have quite a strong beat and lyrically emphasise the fun of sex with chauvinistic, misogynoir lyrics that often contextualise the woman and the act within the erotic, encouraging male brains to switch to autopilot, focussing entirely on the physicality and pleasure of sex, not the love. My piece is a response to these negative things I found. It is slow(ish) to be meditative, slow down the heart rate and give the listener space to clear their minds and think. The listener should not get carried away by eroticism but instead wrapped up in the sweetness, sensuality, thoughtfulness and intentional nature of the act of marital sex. Looking forward to adding this to the the final portfolio! So this is a sonic, feminist, womanist critique of pop music about women and sex, using the lived experience of a woman of colour as an analytical tool for reflection. I am trying to promote the knowledge of women by uncovering the lost narratives of our experience, like a Foucauldian genealogy.

Well done for reading, here’s the track! It’s called “I Hope The Neighbours Don’t See”

This YouTube playlist contains the Original, the Orchestral version, PLUS YOU CAN WATCH ME PLAY THE ACOUSTIC VERSION! Play in the embedded player below or Follow this link to play:

You can also listen on SoundCloud. Follow this link to play or use the embedded player below:

The Middle 8/Bridge is inspired by a conversation I had with a middle aged man who told me that when he first got married as a young man, he gave his wife a Hickey on her neck and someone from his church saw it and told him, “now you’re married you can do that where it don’t show” hah! lol

Lots of love

Catherine x

#wedding #makeup

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Come Worship With Me! | #freelance #musician #worshipleader |

Hey everybody!

The other day I lead worship at an event! I thought I would put up the footage so people could come worship with me online! The following times are where I am leading worship:

1:28:26-1:33:30 – You’re My Healer

1:33:34-1:37:42 – Strength Will Rise (they eventually clapped in time… lol)

1:46:23-1:58:00 – Jamming Session (Instrumental of one of my original compositions
called ‘Hallelujah’, which I sing later on)

1:58:40-2:03:36 – You’re My Healer (Reprise)

2:09:01-2:12:00-  Hallelujah (original song by me)

Follow this link to listen or use the embedded player below:

The event was bi-lingual, people spoke the following languages: Brazilian, Portuguese, Spanish, English and Yoruba. Normally, at church I speak a bit between songs but I was soo nervous for some reason lol, I didn’t have anyone to translate anything I said anyway lol, they did for the message which was good, next time I’ll ask for a translator.

Big thanks to everybody who helped make Saturday evening happen, as well as those who stepped in last minute to accommodate!

P.S. Let’s crowd source some prayer for Catherine lol. My blood sugar has been up and down lately, let’s pray that it stabilises and I don’t absent mindedly give myself too much insulin again lol.

Lots of love

Catherine

[Video] Vlog Post | #phdlife #theology #musicology #freelance #musician |

Hey hey hey!

Lets catch up via YouTube shall we?

Love Catherine x

Selfie before a tutorial www.catherinewaithe-arnold.com | #freelance #musician #phdlife

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[Video] Where Are The Girls? | #ChibokschoolGirls #missingnigerianschoolgirls #Christianpersecution #womensrights #singer #songwriter #SoundCloud #bringbackourgirls|

Hello Everybody!

I had something else scheduled for today but given the recent news about a second mass abduction of school girls in Nigeria by the Islamist militant group Boko Haram I felt that it was appropriate to discuss that intead.

Here’s the CNN report on the abductions: edition.cnn.com. The girls were taken from their school, they were trying to learn, apparently the army who were supposed to be protecting that area left just before Boko Haram or whoever it was decided to turn up and abduct the girls, seems all too convenient for me?

Last time this happened in Chibok, see the BBC report on this: bbc.co.uk. Unfortunately, the girls were not all found and those that were found were scarred for life or had babies because they had been “sold” or “married off” to the Islamist fighters etc. This kind of gender based violence, sexual exploitation, sexual violence and paedophilia is common amongst these islamist terrorist groups because they don’t have any respect for women or girls. Women and girls to them are things for the use of men. They also have a habit of selling the women and girls of minority ethnic groups like the Yazidi (see this Guardian report as well as this Telegraph report about the Yazidi) and Christian minority groups (see this other Guardian report and Open Doors data on Nigeria) into sexual slavery.

Please find below the song I originally wrote in response to the Chibok school girls abduction, which sadly is relevant again. I know in the West it can be very easy to forget about the suffering and issues going on in the rest of the world but we really need to start paying attention. As mentioned in my previous blog, I work with children and I am a Christian and a woman, which is why things like this move me so profoundly. If I can use my art to draw attention to these issues in order to get them addressed, I’m going to do so, I’m taking a similar approach with my practice based PhD follow this link to find out more.

Watch my song in the embedded player below or click this link.

You can also listen to it on SoundCloud follow this link or use the embedded player below:

Love Catherine xxx

R.I.P. Billy Graham

Just like to say R.I.P Billy Graham an evangelist who would pray with Presidents died yesterday aged 99. For more info see his website https://billygraham.org/about/biographies/billy-graham/

Sorry its late I was in a seminar!

Love Catherine

[Video] I’ve Done Lots Of Work! :) | #phdlife #theology #musicology #freelance #musician #soundcloud

Hey everybody,

Please see video below for what’s up with me!

Have a listen to some of my music!

Love and regards,

Catherine

[Video] Message From Me! A #Music #PhD #Student | #Thesis #Theology #Musicology #Theomusicology |

Hello Y’all!

Here’s an update on what I’ve been doing so far with my PhD (follow this link to find out more)

Follow this link to watch or watch the video using the embedded player below:

Follow me on SoundCloud! Follow this link to play or play using the embedded player below:

Love Catherine x

Lovely sky today!

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