I just feel like I need to post this for somebody who needs some love 🙂
I just feel like I need to post this for somebody who needs some love 🙂
I know I said I wasn’t going to share any more of my online dating escapades for a while but I was just flabbergasted by this guy’s response, I just can’t believe this:
(I’m the purple bubble)
What is the deal with that?? This is ridiculous… I don’t think that any of the guys that get in contact with me care about my personality lol. I don’t know why I bother lol.
Do all men want that? Is that what Christian guys think when they see me too? Is that what the “kids” is doing these days? lol I don’t know I’m not sexually active, I’m not married lol.
Maybe there’s a church somewhere I can find someone nice who will have the decency to marry me first before asking me if I want to sit on their face, which BY THE WAY seems like a very un-hygienic, practice to me, not something I would want to do personally, also you could probably suffocate a person that way or even break their nose “ouch!” 😦 I’m just saying.
Someone said to me this week they like my smile and they “…just wanna ride…”.
I want someone who will make love to me 😦 not “ride” me like a horse or a rollercoaster *stupes*…. Come on guys, let’s respect women more. Christian or not I don’t think it’s unreasonable for adult women and men to expect a bit more and a bit better from each other really.
That’s the kind of thing you come up against as a Christian young woman trying to search for someone. Without Jesus I think for some of these people, sex genuinely is all they have and they just want something to plug that Jesus shaped hole. You’d be surprised how fulfilling friendship with Jesus is. Jesus is very interesting and surprisingly sweet. See my previous blog post: I Saw #Jesus
Lastly, I couldn’t help but add this one:
Oh dear!………..* shakes head *
P.S. Below is my profile picture for online dating, the high-vis jacket seems to be going down well and a regular turn on but I don’t know why lol. Different I guess?
So yesterday I had some spare time and I was just (wasting it lol) spending it laying on my bed, on top of the covers, pretty much doing nothing but daydreaming, thinking about nothing important really. In fact, what I was thinking about was something rather silly, I was imagining being on one of those chat shows and thinking about what I would say and wear and so on lol.
Then I looked over to the right and I saw Jesus just casually sitting on the other side of the bed. I thought to myself wait a minute…. Jesus just stealthily came into my room, sat next to me on my bed without my knowledge and was listening to me think stupidness lol, nothing particularly holy or inspiring but Jesus just seemed to be happy to chill. At first I noticed and carried on thinking, then the Holy Spirit said to me I should thank Jesus for being there. So I did.
I thought to myself – how long has Jesus been there? Lol. Also, how often does Jesus do that? Lol. Also, I realised that Jesus must be there the whole time. We think we are alone but we’re not.
I thanked Jesus for being there because we know that Jesus “loves” us but sometimes it’s really comforting when Jesus does things to let us know that He “likes” us. You hang with people you can stand lol.
Interestingly – when I thought something that I knew was naughty, Jesus disappeared, I then asked forgiveness for that thought then Jesus reappeared!
My experience showed me that the following scriptures are true:
Psalm 34:7 NLT
For the angel of the LORD is a guard; he surrounds and defends all who fear him.
This is because I realised through my experience that Jesus must there all the time!
1 Thessalonians 5:2 NLT
For you know quite well that the day of the Lord’s return will come unexpectedly, like a thief in the night.
Jesus came into my room stealthily like a thief in the night, without my knowledge, it was just – boom – Jesus is here. My goodness when the rapture happens no one is even going to know what hit them, Jesus will just be not there and then be there!
N.B. I was at the sink this morning, my mind somewhere else again and I saw Jesus again! Standing in front of me, facing me, body angled slightly to the side, looking at me like he was walking past, saw something interesting and had just turned around to look to see what it was.
This is another instalment and perhaps the last for a while of how things are going regarding my search for a mate!
This one is the typical problem I have, being a Christian female. There simply are not enough single, male Christians (who aren’t single for a good reason lol…) around the age of 18-35 in the church globally. So a young adult Christian woman, like myself, who no longer wishes to be single has to go elsewhere. However, guys who aren’t Christians often want things that we Christian young women cannot give.
Observe: (I AM THE PURPLE BUBBLE)
btw just to clarify the person I was speaking to was not a Christian
At this point I’m thinking to myself…wait, did he just ask me if I wanted to sit on his face? I’m guessing he doesn’t mean he wants to give me a piggy back ride or maybe put me on his shoulders so we can go apple picking lol.
So I decided, this isn’t going to work as usual lol so I’m going to witness to him instead so I said:
Now, I must admit that I was a little turned on by that last comment… I’m only human lol
I wrote a song to that effect:
Pretty smooth lol. HOWEVER! I am a Christian and Jesus says that we are not supposed to have sex before marriage so I moved on.
Also – if you read the above carefully you can make a couple of assumptions, seems as though because he thinks I’m hot I get sex AND good times, presumably the ones he thinks are ugly he just sleeps with and doesn’t take them out? Read it again, that’s the assumption I came to?
Anyway… it ended like this:
Can’t win ’em all!
Let’s just corporately commit that guy to prayer……
Anyway, I can definitely see the futility of what I am doing…… I’m trying to not do something with people who want to do that thing with me a lot and expecting them to live in a way that is unnatural to them and they are expecting me to live in a way that is unnatural to me:
Anyhoo, anyone who knows a nice guy who is single and willing to mingle and not penetrate me before marriage (because I have a right to not be penetrated before marriage if I don’t want to….) let me know!
As you know I’m single and looking. I have been trying online dating it’s going ok.
However, I have noticed an uncomfortable trend of men asking me inappropriate things and I’ve decided to start shaming them because it’s not on! So today here’s the first installment of the kind of weird requests I get:
I didn’t even reply…
I am thankful I am a child of God and that my identity and self worth is in Jesus and not a man so I don’t feel like I have to give in to demoralizing or sexually deviant things to feel whole.
So the weirdest thing happened. An ex tried to get in contact with me on a dating app. Turns out he wants a date.
Shocked, can’t blog tonight.
Request denied obviously… lol.
Just a quick apologetic post. I am soo sorry to all of those lovely people that have been commenting on my blog but I didn’t respond. This is because your comments went into my spam! I’ve apologised about this before. I saw it and there were only a few and I haven’t really been checking. I found a whole load in my spam and I am sorry that I didn’t check sooner. If it makes you feel better I also missed other important emails as well, like one from my PhD supervisor asking me for some work!
I would also like to say thank you to all of those lovely people that bothered to comment! I read every one!
Lots of love
Catherine x (interpret that as a kiss hehe)