HOW I LEARNT NOT TO GO TO TOWN LOOKING SHABBY

Dear Friends,

Let me share with you the cautionary tale of how I learned to not go to town looking like I just got out of bed. 

Before that, if you missed my last post and you are interested in taking up the Flute, Alto Sax or Clarinet in Bb or you are looking for a composer for your project please follow this link.

Now back to the story!

The year was 2009, I was in my second year of my degree BA (Hons) Popular Music and Record Production, at Southampton Solent University (I graduated First Class btw then went on to do my Masters in Music Composition at The University Of Southampton, there’s two universities in Southampton). To encourage/motivate myself to get my work done, I created my own reward system for the means of positive reinforcement. So I did things I needed to do, then I would reward myself for it πŸ˜› . Often, it would include buying a DVD, cake, going out somewhere with friends and going to town to buy purfume/chocolate/cupcakes/milkshakes lol. I didn’t usually dress to go to town I just went as is, unless I was going with friends.

Now, one day I had an essay due. I spent all night finishing the essay because it was due the next day and like a typical student, I had left it till waaay too late to start. Eventually, I finished the essay very early in the morning on the submission day. As I had been up all night I was knackered, I was soo knackered that I didn’t even want to shower, which is a big thing for me because I ALWAYS SHOWER EVERYDAY AND SOMETIMES I EVEN SHOWER TWICE A DAY, living in England I am in the minority when it comes to showering habits lol… (to be fair that extra layer of dirt is what’s keeping you warm).

Anyway, I decided for my own self respect to shower even though I was soo tired. (Sometimes, my peers would go to university on submission days in their pyjamas because they had been up all night working on essays and couldn’t be bothered to wear clothes because you didn’t go to lectures on that day you just went in and handed in your work). Anywaaaaay! So I looked in the mirror and thought,

“I’m just going to hand in my work not a lecture, no need for makeup no one’s going to see me and no one in the queue cares lol”.

So I decided not to wear makeup. I then looked at my hair and said

“I’m too tired I can’t be bothered people need to just be happy that I’m wearing clothes, showered and am handing in my essay forget that!”

So I slicked my hair back into a ponytail, no parting or anything just back lol. I found some clothes, bell bottom jeans and a plaid pink/red/blue t-shirt and some trainers. So basically I looked like I had just come off a farm mucking out stables πŸ˜€ . I walked the short walk to university carrying my essay and a handbag, got to the hatch and handed in my essay. After that I felt very relieved and decided, lets go to town! I wanted to buy the latest perfume of the day, I can’t remember what it was Estee Lauder or something like that!

So I started walking to town, massive weight off my shoulder knowing that I had finished said essay and my time was now my own. I walked down the high street, which led to the massive mall, fun fact the architect who designed the atrium of that mall was the father of one of my ex bf’s. Moving on. I was walking down the high street nearly at the mall and there were charity people there as usual, trying to get shoppers to give to charity. These people always catch me and always speak to me, I always get them! I don’t know why? Maybe I have a friendly face?

Begrudgingly I walked up to him and then when I got close.

         “Oh. My. Goodness.”

He was the fittest thing I had ever seen with a clip board and there I was, looking like a farm-hand. The horror! Thank goodness I at least showered! This is why you must always shower lol. He was named after one of the disciples, tall, intelligent, loved the environment, was politically and socially aware, personable, buff ting, a tiny bit older than me, basically everything I would ever want in a guy. He had a degree in something like Environmental Science and I could actually have an intelligent conversation with him. I kept on trying to run away because I felt like I didn’t really look that great and I was embarrassed BUT he didn’t seem to notice. He kept on prolonging the conversation way beyond trying to get me to sign up for charity. I was thinking to myself “why is this guy still talking to me I look awful?”. He was so nice and intelligent and I really enjoyed talking to him. I was thinking “yeah we can get married and have an eco friendly house, grow our own vegetables and our car will run on solar power and our love πŸ˜› “. I wish I had been more confident and gotten his number, he might have given it to me, we did talk for an awfully long time, I was beginning to get a bit embarrassed and I’m pretty sure people were watching lol.

Eventually we finished our conversation and I went into the mall feeling demoralised because I just couldn’t be bothered to make an effort with my appearance. In general around that time I literally used to dress like a dude:

Now I dress like this:

Just got back from a #babyshower forgot to share a #selfie in my new dress! #amazonprime #Amazon

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Still loving the red and much more feminine! There’s nothing wrong with jeans but there is something wrong with wearing them when it’s not always really the appropriate occasion to do so, like I used to. There’s also something wrong with wearing jeans to hide your body, like I used to do as well. I just had a lot of self esteem and self image issues at the time that I have been working on and still am working on with Jesus.

Learn from my experience! Do not go to town looking like you belong on a farm. I can’t stress this enough, you might meet a fit guy/lady. It’s not worth it. The memory of that experience still upsets me to this day lol. I couldn’t have dated him anyway because I promised God that I was going to university to get a degree not a boyfriend. I promised God before I went to university that I wouldn’t have any boyfriends whilst I was doing my degree, consequently, I was deliberately boyfriend-less for 3 years. I regret nothing, as I said earlier I graduated First Class. I’m still boyfriend-less, not deliberately this time but even so I’m still having quite a good time exploring who I am, who Jesus is and what Jesus wants out of my life and where we are going together.

The next day I decided that that experience was never ever going to happen to me ever again, I put on my slap foundation, blusher, eye shadow, eye liner, mascara the works, so full war paint lol, I also put on a dress and a necklace and went to town looking for the cute charity guy again πŸ˜‰ and he wasn’t there… and he never was ever again… and I felt so stupid, even more stupid than I felt the previous day.

For those of you who have read to the bottom of this blog post, well done to you, your reward is the following nuggets of knowledge:

I felt like the experience was God showing me that I am beautiful and I don’t need makeup or nice clothes to get nice, attractive, intelligent guys to talk to me, it was really my personality that kept him talking to me because I had already agreed to give to charity and we were literally just having a conversation after that about the news. 

However, what I also learnt from that experience is the importance of being ready, for anything. The problem was not that I wasn’t dressed and didn’t have makeup on, the problem was that I WASN’T READY FOR LIFE BECAUSE I COULDN’T BE BOTHERED and therein lies the crux of what I am trying to teach you. I didn’t appropriately deal with something in my past (the essay, I started it to late). I then allowed this thing in my past to effect my future (I allowed my tiredness and lethargy from writing the essay to dictate my actions instead of my brain and heart). This in turn left me unprepared for my future (I was embarrassed in front of the attractive charity guy). Always be ready to face life’s challenges always and never assume that your destiny is going to happen tomorrow it might just creep up on you today! This story isn’t about the guy or makeup it’s just about doing whatever you personally need to do to be prepared even if it’s tiring. The guy just represented anything that I wanted but wasn’t physically, spiritually and emotionally ready for because I just couldn’t be bothered because of something that happened in my past. Don’t let that happen to you. I say this metaphorically:

DON’T GO TO TOWN LOOKING LIKE RUBBISH, ALWAYS BE PREPARED!

Apply that principle to whatever situation is going on in your life and just make sure that you don’t go to town looking like rubbish, please.

 

Lots of love

Catherine x

Off somewhere to do things!

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CONTACT MEΒ 

Good afternoon!

Did you know I have a Contact Me page? (Follow this link to my Contact Me page) No? Well… I have a Contact Me page lol (Follow this link to my Contact Me page).

I created it in the event that if you are interested in anything you see on this site you, you have any questions/comments or you wish to hire me (for music tuition, composing/arranging/producing, harping) you can contact me!

No need to be scared, I’ve dropped the form I had and put my email address there instead.

Check it out! (Follow this link to my Contact Me page)

 

We can also connect through social media:

SoundCloud – Catherine Waithe-Arnold www.soundcloud.com/waithey

Facebook – Catherine Waithe-Arnold Music www.facebook.com/catherinewaithearnoldmusic

LinkedIn – Catherine Waithe-Arnold  www.linkedin.com/in/catherinewaithe-arnold

YouTube – Catherine Waithe-Arnold www.youtube.com/CatherineWAmusic

Twitter – @CatherineW_A https://twitter.com/CatherineW_A

Instagram – @catherinewaithe.arnoldmusic https://www.instagram.com/catherinewaithe.arnoldmusic/

 

Catherine

On my way to my #gig! #freelance #musician #singer #songwriter https://catherinewaithe-arnold.com/2017/07/27/gig-friday-28th-jul-6-30pm-the-gospel-centre/

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FOOTAGE FROM MY #GIG #freelance #musician #singer #songwriter #composer #instrumentalpop

Hello everybody!

Remember I had a gig last Friday? (follow this link for more info) well I filmed it and I thought that I would share the footage with you guys!

I really went for it!

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Enjoy! (follow this link to my YouTube channel or play it in the embedded player below)

You can also listen to the audio on SoundCloud (follow this link or use the embedded player below)

Catherine x

I Have A Gig Friday 28th Jul, 6.30pm @ The Gospel Centre

Hey guys!

I have a gig! Sorry for the lateness I was doing my hair lol.

When: Tomorrow! Friday 28th July 2017

Time: 6.30 pm

Where: The Gospel Centre, Wightman Roadd, Harringay Ladder, London N8 0LT http://gospelcentre.co.uk/how_to_find_us.html

Description: A variety evening featuring poets, soloists and contemporary gospel groups. This follows a week of daily community outreach by the Nserve team from 24th – 30th July. Our aim is to reach the unsaved in our community with a particular focus on encouraging the involvement of young people in reaching out and serving.

Okedokey, I expect to see all of you there!

Catherine x

My outfit matched the drums today lol #drumscreen #drums #worshipleader #fun #church #freelance #musician www.catherinewaithe-arnold.com

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I’m On #YouTube

Hello!

A quick one today!

Did you know that I’m on YouTube? www.youtube.com/CatherineWAmusic

You can see me perform and also I’ve started uploading tracks with just a picture as a background, it doesn’t hurt to diversify from SoundCloud www.soundcloud.com/waithey from time to time heh!

The latest thing I put up on YouTube! Follow this link to listen or use the embedded player below:

 

Love Catherine x

Trop #chaude aujourd hui! 🌞

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The #evolution of the #song #music #freelance #musician #songwriting #soundcloud

Hello Ladies & Gentlemen,

I wanted to show you what I’ve been up to! If you follow me on SoundCloud (follow this link for more info)  you would see that I have been busy!

I’ve posted quite a few things – see the playlist New Stuff follow this link for more info! or use the embedded player below:

Today I wanted to show you have songs can “evolve”. So I got the concept for this latest  song when I did a lot of thinking when I went on a walk (follow this link to read this blog post) where I took some self portraits par example:

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I was thinking about how it must feel for young Christian couples when they get married go on honeymoon and come back and start living together for the first time. This is an exciting time for Christian young people because we don’t live with our significant other until we are married, not even when we are engaged do we live together, it’s literally only once you have gotten married and come back from your honeymoon do you actually start to live together as a Christian. I really wanted to write a song about this but I thought to myself:

“how to I express this feeling, this tacit knowledge that I, personally, have never experienced before in song?”

So I thought ok let’s start with lyrics, what is the one thing that Christian’s can’t do before marriage? Hmmm! Sex :). So I thought lets, tastefully, discuss that. So using some euphemisms from my favourite book of the Bible, Song of Songs (follow this link to read this book) I came up with some lyrics talking about “giving your love” and “gardens” lol.

[Song of Songs 7:12 NLT] [12] Let us get up early and go to the vineyards to see if the grapevines have budded, if the blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love.

I also thought, let’s discuss that freedom of coming out from under your parents, so let’s so ok, “all we need is us” and then I thought, “yeah but we also need God, more than we need our spouses”, so I put ok it’s the wife, the husband, and Jesus, so I added “and the love of God” to just show you don’t do marriage alone it’s you and your spouse and God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.

This gave me this:

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SIDE NOTE: Interestingly enough, there is five of you, but God, Jesus and The Holy Spirit are “one”, Jesus said it Himself:

[John 17:21-23 NLT] [21] I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one–as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me. [22] “I have given them the glory you gave me, so they may be one as we are one. [23] I am in them and you are in me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me.

Now if God, Jesus and The Holy Spirit are “one” and we, as individuals and a collective church are “one” with Jesus:

[1 Corinthians 12:12-13 NLT] [12] The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ. [13] Some of us are Jews, some are Gentiles, some are slaves, and some are free. But we have all been baptized into one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit.

And a husband is “one” with his wife

[Malachi 2:15 NLT] [15] Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.

[Matthew 19:4-6 NLT] [4] “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ [5] And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ [6] Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

You are actually not five at all tas the scriptures say:

God the Father + God the Son + God the Holy Spirit = 1 lets call this FSHS

FSHS + you = 1

FSHS + your spouse = 1

you (Y) + your spouse (YS) = 1

Therefore FSHS + Y + (Y+YS) = FSHSYYS = 1

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I thought I would add some bass and some guitars panned so I tried it out:

I thought that things should be more precise and less muddy and I was pretty sure that I wanted the song to fade out so it turned into this: (at this point I still hadn’t finished the lyrics

Eventually I got my act together and finished the lyrics, I feel like I captured how I would feel, the drama of a wedding, the fun of dressing up, picking a house and sneakily having sex in the garden just because I can! πŸ˜› hehe!

Eventually I thought, hmm, this needs some drums etc, so I got on Finale and decided do go through the tedious task of writing the drum beat, as I struggle with maths, working out the semi demi hemi quavers that you find in drum ‘n” bass was really difficult and I am more proficient in Finale then I am in Pro Tools, Cubase or Logic so the only way for me to do the beats was by scoring it. It took aaaaaaaaaaaaaaages even with the copy and paste function lol.

I also added some orchestral sounds as that is what I am trained to do and I love orchestral pop! This concoction ended up with this:

Then I added backing vocals!

And that’s where I have gotten to so far! Some things may change and I’ll still remix it etc

Here’s the full playlist for you to enjoy at your leisure!

 

Lots of love

Catherine

Aaaand that's a wrap for #church till next week! #freelance #musician #musicpastor #musicteacher www.catherinewaithe-arnold.com

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Wanted Ad: One Husband for one woman

About me:

  • Female
  • Christian
  • 27 yrs old
  • Favorite book of the Bible: Song of Songs
  • fun loving
  • creative: loves music: writing & performing & recording, art, baking & exercise (sport is considered a creative art)
  • likes to philosophise about things
  • musical
  • has 2 degrees, working on the 3rd
  • gluten, wheat and lactose free
  • loves to nap lol
  • favourite food: chicken anything
  • favourite colour: blue
  • can drive, does not have a car
  • likes the quiet
  • likes walking
  • into photography & phoneography
  • Music Pastor
  • dyspaxic, a bit dyslexic & a few other things…. lol
  • lived away from home for 5 years (university time) and then came back

 

Games consoles: I own the following

  • Super Nintendo (with no power cable or controller I’ll sort that out later)
  • PS2
  • PS3
  • Pink Nintendo DS lite
  • Black Wii with 1 black controller & 1 white controller

 

CookwareI own the following

  • George Foreman grill thingy
  • Titanium Steel Pans,
  • a kettle (which to be fair I might throw away lol)
  • Colourful cutlery I used at university (which I might also throw away lol)
  • crockery (which I’m going to get rid of I don’t even know why I’m including this on the list lol)
  • I had my own microwave but my mothers broke so I gave her mine
  • Black mini fridge it’s literally like a foot tall
  • Russell Hobs food steamer
  • kitchen utensils.
  • I also have loooads of recipes πŸ™‚

 

I need space for the following:

  • my mini trampoline
  • my wondercore abs thingy
  • my other exercise stuff
  • my hair steamer hahaha
  • my 13 instruments one of which is a harp
  • all my other misc music equipment
  • my skateboard that I keep on falling off of…
  • my art supplies including my easel
  • my hats
  • my ornamental dolls
  • my home office stuff, pc printer etc.
  • don’t be alarmed, all of my earthly possessions actually fit into one room, spread across a house should be fine, there will be no space for your clothes…

 

Clothes:

My clothes fill 3 cupboards… and not a single cupboard is devoid of shoes at the bottom.

 

Books: I have many of these,

  • some are poetry books and are prose fiction and most are prose non-fiction
  • I’ve got music books, books on theology, science, reference books, children’s books, various translations of the Bible, stories and tons of Horrible Histories!
  • It would be nice to merge our collections!

 

Where I want to live:

  • somewhere surrounded by green
  • I shrivel in cities
  • Somewhere the dogs can have space
    • the little one is a fool and cannot be trusted around cars
  • I want a house with a garden so I can grow my crops (e.g. carrots)

 

What I’m looking for:

  • someone who wants to get married
  • An attractive means by which I can reproduce myself
  • Someone my age and older, but not too much older because I want something that will be able to run around and play with me
  • affectionate
  • will put up with my allergies lol
  • must be able to get on with my family & friends
  • willing to agree to a space in the house reserved for me between certain hours in the evenings and mornings for me to give my music tuition lessons
  • must enjoy going to coffee shops & talking and also
  • needs to know when to shut up lol
  • someone who likes to go to restaurants
  • someone who scrubs up well
  • someone who will come with me to my arty things like the The Tate
  • Supportive person who always has my back
  • Someone supportive of me working from home & being self employed
  • House husband yaaaaaay! I’d honestly love a guy that works from home!
  • a guy with a sense of humour
  • no racists, whether that be against people of African-Caribbean decent or Caucasian decent or any other ethnicities
  • creative
  • someone who can help me mix/record vocals, I’m not good at that lol
  • sounding board for ideas
  • musician perhaps? I know this sounds clichΓ©d, this is probably one of the only serious bullet points, I’d love to sing worship songs at home with my husband and have worship time together and maybe one time he plays the guitar maybe one time I play or we play different instruments together! that’s literally one of my dreams. I’m serious about this one lol
  • must read my blog and be supportive of the various things that I like to do to occupy my time πŸ˜›
  • likes to travel
  • thinks I’m pretty without my makeup πŸ˜›
  • someone who looks the same in real life like they do on the internet
    • I try and make my instagram selfies just as ugly as I am in real life so that when people meet me they don’t feel like I’m Catfishing them

 

Children:

  • I do not currently have any of these
  • Would like to be married for a few years before reproducing
  • I’m up for having 2 minimum
  • Don’t think of it as “ugh she wants two children!” No no no, think of it as “she wants to get married and is willing to have sex at least twice” πŸ™‚
  • 4 is my maximum, that’s frisky enough. Once we have 4 I’m going to start throwing around words like… “vasectomy”. Speaking of sex…

 

Sex:

  • I am a Christian, so until marriage, as far as you or any guy is concerned, everything below my neck that isn’t my hands is marked “here be dragons”.
    • I don’t date guys who aren’t Christians any more because they keep on trying to have sex with me lol. It’s flattering but not congruous with my values.
      • It’s not a hard and fast rule, maybe if I met someone decent who wasn’t a Christian maybe I would date them I dunno but I wouldn’t marry someone who is not a Christian because I want to be on the same page spiritually.

 

For all enquiries visit my Contact me page or email info@catherinewaithe-arnold.com, willing to accept video entries lol

Love Catherine x

#Book recommendation: Sisters in the Wilderness! #PhD #education

Hey everybody,

Man it’s been hot in the UK lately. Twas like the scorching a thousand suns! Another quick one!

Basically, I’ve been really busy doing research for my PhD. I’ve been reading a book about womanist theologies, apparently a womanist is a feminist who is a woman of colour, usually particularly interested in advancing the causes of her people but is for the advancement of men and women. I’ve also been learning about the impact that slavery has had on the African-American psyche. All very interesting. I recommend “Sisters in the Wilderness” by Delores S. Williams for more information on that subject matter.

Once I get an opportunity to pry myself from my work for a bit longer I’ll post another long piece!
Lots of love Catherine

Xxx

Why I am enjoying #church #feasts #fellowship

Good evening!

Just a quick one today I’ve been really busy!
I would just like to say that I have really been enjoying church lately because we have been having a lot of fellowship after church. Lately, we’ve started making sandwiches out of the leftover display communion bread that and juice/drinks after church. I even made some gluten free bread once for that.

I know it’s simple but these simple things help to foster good feelings and community cohesiveness. As a group, we need to experience oneness before we can go out into the world and evangelize because as it said in the Bible:

John 17:21-23 NLT

[21] I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one-as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me. [22] “I have given them the glory you gave me, so they may be one as we are one. [23] I am in them and you are in me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me.

Love Catherine x